What is sex therapy?

I’m SO glad you asked!

When people hear the words sex therapy, they often picture scenarios that are completely different from what actually happens. It makes sense — sex is rarely talked about openly, and when it is, it’s often surrounded by jokes, shame, or myths. The truth is, sex therapy is a specialized form of talk therapy in which various topics related to intimacy, relationships, sexual concerns, and pleasure can be openly and honestly discussed.

What does an actual session look like?

We talk about what’s bringing you in for services

• Maybe sex feels painful

• Maybe your desire has changed or feels mismatched between you and a partner

• Maybe you want to explore kink, polyamory, or other parts of your sexual identity in a safe place

• Maybe you just want a healthier, more confident relationship with your body and sexuality

We explore the bigger picture

As with most things, it is helpful to understand the whole context in which the symptom(s) exist. Together we’ll look at:

• Stress, anxiety, depression, or trauma that might affect intimacy

• Beliefs about sex from family, culture, or religion

• Medical issues or medications that might be at play

• Relationship dynamics, attachment styles, and communication patterns

We create a plan together

Depending on your goals, we might:

• Work on communication skills with a partner

• Unpack shame or negative beliefs about sex

• Build comfort with your body through mindfulness or gradual exercises

• Address emotional blocks using approaches like EFT or IFS

• Talk through practical strategies for navigating desire, arousal, or intimacy

What sex therapy is not:

• It’s not sexual activity with your therapist

• It’s not about judgment or telling you what you “should” want

• It’s not limited to couples or cules —individuals benefit, too

If you’re curious to learn more, I’d love to talk with you. Book a free consultation call here.